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BabyDru's Family

I have been playing around with my family tree since my oldest had a homeowrk assignment about her ancestors a couple years ago. This has led to some interseting conversations with people I have never met, however, we are related somehow. It now has my 12th great-grandparents. So we are showing over 400 years of the Dru family you are going to join:

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The Baby Wish!!!

Yesterday was a difficult day for me. My Wife was wonderful trying to make it less stressful so I could enjoy the beauty of the day. My Oldest Daughter turned 13 years old. I have gone from 4 children in the house to 3 children and a teenager. For the past 13 years there has only been one constant in my life, Meg. She is the only person that has always been there no matter where I moved, she went with me, no matter what I had to get done, she has been there with me. She has been to 6 diffrent schools she has lived in 3 diffrent country's, she has lived in 3 different states. She is the reason I decided that when I got to NY I would settle down and plan on not leaving. She deserves this.
Yesterday this little girl turned into a teenager, It was difficult for me just because I looked at the past 13 years and I wondered what happened to the time from the nurse teaching me how to bath her to buying her maxi-pads and Make-up.
I will tell you now I am lucky to have a daughter like her. Lacrosse try-outs start today, so for her birthday she got a new lacrosse stick for herself and one for me. Yes it was her birthday present, I can now spend time with her teaching the game and skills she needs to have fun at the best sport ever!!!
Meg, I am proud of you and I love you very much!!!
To BabyDru, Please don't grow up to fast and like your oldest sister, Enjoy the time you have with your Mother and me.

Have I told you lately how much I love you??

Is my husband not the cutest with his posts? I am by far the luckiest woman in the world.

And I feel his pain - people give me some crazy looks when I say this is our 5th child. No matter that it's a blended family .... and because of that I have been doing a lot more research on large families - we both came from 2 and only had 2 each before we were married. FIVE is a bit different. I have become an expert in multi-child space organizing, laundry delegation, making leftovers last, and creating fun for pennies. And you know what? I have never been happier!! I love all of my children - those I birthed and those I am now helping to raise. It has not been without it's challenges of course - money needs to go a lot further, we have ex's and their issues to contend with and stepsiblings to not always get along like the Brady's portrayed. But when it works - it's magic. So here's to all those parents of lots of gifts from God, those who they had a hand in creating and those they have a hand in raising.

Number 5, Almost here

Although it is a Brady bunch family of the 21st century it is going to still be 5 children. 2 mine, 2 hers and one ours. The 5th one will be here in 3 short months which is already making people look at me funny. A year ago when I was asked how many children I had and I would reply with the safe number 2, people would respond with, "wow, you are so lucky." After a wedding increasing that number to four and finding out that MommyDru is Pregnant again I now reply to the question, "Fifth one is on its way." You would not believe the responses I get to that. Everyone looks at me like I am crazy.
I do not understand this reaction at all, is more that 2 kids really that bad? Why do you look at me like I am crazy to be excited about having my fifth child living in the house?
My Mother was one of 6 and my grandmother was one of 11, is there a chance that I just like being a parent and I believe that I am good at it so bringing in another is exciting?
Yes this will be one more sitting at the table after school to get help with homework, another trip to some sort of activity on Saturday or Sunday. Another college tuition.
I get special time with each of these children, dinner for me and one of them might be more of a dinner with one of them and the baby and may be dinner with two of them. However, I believe that none of these kids lack special time or any needs and they do have a lot of their wants.
Yes this is just a rant because there are actually people out there that believe we shouldn't have another one. I actually had to explain to a ten year old why we chose not to have an abortion because she overheard a couple adults saying that we had to many. I am not on any state funding and all my kids have health benefits and see the Doctor on a regular basis. So we get cereal in a Bag instead of a box, but that is just an easy way to save a few bucks!!!

Baby Registry

From what I hear there is going to be a baby shower happening for Baby Dru. Well, really, is it for Baby Dru or mommy Dru? I can never tell. We have registered though Amazon.com for the shower. I never realized how difficult this was. Picking presents that we are going to need for a baby. Since both me and Mommy Dru had two children each prior to our marriage we thought that would be enough and got rid of all the baby stuff we had in storage, then hey there you go, the stick showed a plus sign and we thought, "hey, we need all that baby stuff again."
I am going to work on the registry though out the week with Mommy Dru and post it on the blog this weekend. And yes Amazon.com, what do you expect from a couple that does web design?
Guess what, I am going to also set it up so I get a commision off the site so hey deal with it.

My Fear of Raising a Son

I have been a father of Girls for almost 13 years now. I have been thinking a lot lately about the difference in Boys and girls and how it will be different with a son (other than potty training). I have always stressed a girl can do anything a boy can do, which I truley believe. I have never pushed and always encouraged any activity no matter if it was designed for a boy or a girl. I have noticed that until Puberty hits I have had some very tomboyish girls in the house. But once that nasty thing called Puberty visits it seams I lose footballs and the Make-up on the bathroom counter reproduces faster than rabbits.


I was thinking about this the other day, I am going to have a son, what are the chances that I may have a football for a very long time now? How about playing with bugs? One of the problems I do forsee is I have taught my girls that Girls are better than boys at most everything they want to try and accomplish. This is something else I firmly believe, I mean come on they bleed for a week at a time and still live, how can a boy top that? But what happens the first time that one of the girls says to Baby Dru, "Dad said I am better than you because I am a girl"


I guess I can always tell him, "That is what life is, always let the woman believe she is better."

The Date is set

Since we are going to have a C-Section the doctor has already scheduled it. Unfortunatly, I was not able to make it to that appointment so I had no say in the Matter. It is pretty cool, The date will be June 24th. Which just so happens to be My great grandfathers Birthdate, my cousin's Birthdate, My friends Son (Colin Walminski's) Birthdate, and my Grandparents Anniversary...
Wow, that seams to be an important date

Never had to think of Boy Names before??

So since my wife spilled the beans most of the readers here have also found out that the baby is going to be a Boy. I am finally going to have a Testosterone producing member of the family.
I am very excited, however, I have never had to think of boy Names... Anyone have some suggestions? I like uncommon names since My last name is the 4th most common in the country.

Wife is taking away the fun of this!!!

So yesterday I threw a little cliff hanger out there. We now know what we are having and I refuse to tell you all. However, My wonderful wife will not let me have my fun, she has posted the answer to this question as a status update on her Facebook profile. So if you are friends with her you know that we are excited to have another baby and that baby is going to be... Crap, I just can't spill the beans since I do have so many friend out there that have yet to meet my wonderful wife. Incase you are wondering I will not spill the beans untill I know certain people like GG (Great-Grandma) knows.
Enjoy, everyone.

Poll Results

The last Poll was fixed... I am sure it is. Holli went to all of her friends and had them vote to find out what the baby is going to be. I went to all of my friends to have them vote, however, I realized more people like her than me. Even my friends wouldn't back me up...
So we had the Ultra Sound today that would have given us the ability to learn the sex of the baby. I fought and fought with her about not finding out and letting it be a surprise. In the end the Technician asked if we wanted to know. Holli's answer was a depressing, "No."
I left the room to grab my Mother and Oldest Daughter so they could come in and watch, both of which were on Holli's side of finding the sex out of the baby and both of which have never seen an Ultra sound before.
When I walked in the room I excitedly said, "We want to find out the sex." Yes this is because your vote does count here at Baby Dru...
So the Ultrasound started and I realized that I could actually point things out, I am becoming a pro. Along with certain things being said from my mother like, "How can you tell what you are looking at," and from my daughter, "it looks like an Orange, or it looks like a monkey"
We did sit there the whole time watching this ultrasound and have found out that so far this baby is going to be healthy and the sex will be...
You didn't really think I was going to tell you did you!

Nature vs. Nurture

This is a topic that has always interested me and to be honest I have always used my daughter as an example. For some reason with a new baby on the way I have been paying more attention to this. My oldest has seen her mother once in the past 11 years. This would lead me to believe that there would be very little things about her that would be like her mother.
However, I do see things about her but I am starting to understand that there is a difference between Nature and Nurture when it comes to qualities that your child posses.
With a new baby on the way I have been looking at all four of our kids and try to take out the Nature aspect that is provided in those children by the parents that are not involved in the new baby, in other words the Ex’s traits. Then I look at my wife and my traits and then our child raising abilities. I think I am getting a good picture of what the baby is going to be like.
1. Very Good Looking (this is all because my looks never show up in my kids and my wife is very good looking.
2. Very Smart, we are talking about Doogie Howser here. Again this is because my traits don’t show up in my children.
3. Athletic and coordinated. Both of us like sports and sport participation.
4. Shy, yes this is the only trait that shows up in my kids that they get from me.

So, my fortune telling is going to say that this child is going to be a good looking professional sports player that wins the Nobel Peace Prize but calls in sick to accept the award because he/she doesn’t like crowds.

Youngest to Oldest

I was about to turn 22 when my first Daughter was born. She is now about to turn 13 and I have another baby getting ready to download in July. The other day me and Meg (the 13 year old) were talking. She was reminding me that all of her friends parents are older than me. She keeps telling me that I am very young to have a 13 year old and I may not be the youngest parent in her class but I am pretty close. Although, I believe that for a lot of people 21 was to young to have a child. Most people are not set in their career and do not have the proper savings and ability to work out the difficulties of being a parent when they are only 21. I however never say I wasn't ready. I may have been a little immature but I was looking for an excuse to go to the movies and watch the new Disney Movie coming out. I have a huge collection of Cartoons on VHS (yes this was before DVD's). I may have been new to my Career but it was stable and I was already moving up the ladder. I had full Medical benefits and a nice two bedroom apartment. I was ready and I believe that was a great time to have a child for me.
Meg informed me that I am 34 years old with a wife that is older and although when this baby is in 7th grade like her I will be 47 with a wife over 50. I can not imagine what that is going to be like. I am going to go from one of the youngest Parents to one of the oldest Parents.
I was thinking about this last night while I couldn't sleep. This does not seam as bad as I thought. My new son or daughter is going to be 16 when I am 50. That just means my baby will be learning to drive while taking me to the Doctors, or taking me on my sunday drive away from the nursing home. Okay, your right that is exagerating a little. I do realize that I will still be working. All of my children will be out of the house and out of College when I reach my eligibility to retire (57 with the plan I have now but hopefully sooner) I realize, My career is full forward and still moving. My House is big enough for another little moster running around. My wife's Career is to the point that she can make her schedule to include important things that may come up. And most importantly, I am still immature enough to want to go see the newest Disney Movie. I may be one of the older parents with this new baby but I believe I am still as ready and able to be a parent that I was when the other ones were born.
Now maybe I will get my son???